“I consider that a man’s brain originally is like a little empty attic, and you have to stock it with such furniture as you choose.” – Arthur Conan Doyle

Be it a string of berries or a colorful sunrise, Mother Nature always has beauty to share. — Photo by Pat Bean.
But I Didn’t Complain
One of the things I told myself, when getting rid of all my furniture and stuff in preparation for living in a small RV so I could fulfill my lifetime travel dreams, was that when I finally settled down again, I would have the fun of decorating my new home from scratch.

I love this photo of me and my daughter, Deborah, taken when she was only five days old — but not the chair I’m sitting in.
And that’s exactly what I did nine years later, nine years in which I learned that I didn’t need much “stuff,” because I had no room for it. My new goal was not to bring a single item of furniture into my newly rented small apartment unless I absolutely loved it.
I thought about that the other day when I came across a picture of me holding my precious first child when she was only five days old. In the past, all I’ve seen when I looked at this valued photo was a too-young-mother, who was coming to realize she had married the wrong man, a fact she wouldn’t undo for four more babies and another 21 years.
This time, however, I noticed the chair I was sitting in for the picture. That set off a string of different memories.

Everything is light and bright, with lots of red, in the nest I’ve created for myself since giving up the RV life. — Photo by Pat Bean
Three weeks before my baby was due, my husband had found a new job that would require us to move from Houston to Lake Jackson, 50 miles south on the Texas Gulf Coast. His parents had arrived from Dallas to help us move, but that same night I went into labor. By morning, I was holding my daughter in my arms. We were going to name her Debra Leigh, and I had spelled it out for my husband. Instead, he signed her birth certificate and named her Deborah Lee.
Then, while I remained in the hospital in Houston, he and his parents moved the few belongings from our furnished Houston apartment to an unfurnished apartment in Lake Jackson. The three of them then went shopping. and bought brand new living room, dining room and bedroom furniture.
I almost cried when I finally saw the furniture, especially the couch and chair, which were a drab, grayish brown plaid that already looked old. But in those days, I kept my feelings to myself. The dinette set was gray with gray plastic covered aluminum chairs, and the bedroom set a plain, pale blonde without any distinguishing features.
I had to live with that furniture for years. But I never complained. I think the latter is the sad part.
Bean Pat: A little tune http://tinyurl.com/lwg37fc Just a cheerful photo to cheer your day. Mother Nature is so awesome. I hope you always have time to enjoy her. It was her beauty that helped sustain me when I had little beauty to enjoy behind walls.
Thank you for sharing your story with such honesty, Pat. Did they at least have colorful throw pillows you could spread around the drabness?
No.
As I was reading what you wrote, I heard my mom saying similar words about the furniture she lived with for so long but did not like. At least now you are both living with pieces that you have chosen and enjoy.
I hope that makes your mom as happy as it makes me.
Oh it does 🙂
here here you are doing great i remember us talking about this when i was so sick red is you not dull drab so enjoy it and know we love you
I do. Thanks for the kind words Cindi.
I’m glad you can make your own space now. In a couple of years I’ll be moving from an apartment into a house. I look forward to furnishing with things I really want. And not too many of them.
I’ve been saying for ten years that my husband’s futon is going OUT. When we move, it IS.